韧性可以帮助孩子从创伤中恢复过来，父母如何支持他们

这个博客文章最初发表于2013年5月15日。

三个女人，最近，一直以来他们从Ariel卡斯特罗的长期囚禁逃克利夫兰力量和勇气的象征。作为三名被绑架的青春和举办十年圈养恢复他们的创伤，他们恢复的一个关键是如何应对他们所经历的苦难。在这方面，许多孩子都表现出了非凡的自然恢复能力，在经历了一些不好的事情发生之后，一种适应能力。

反映他们的临床工作与创伤的儿童和他们的家庭在儿童医院洛杉矶，心理学家斯蒂芬妮马西，博士，和凯伦罗杰斯博士，最近他们的观察与标志性通道的家庭和家庭表演和今日美国, respectively. Below, they’ve expanded on their observations to discuss how children can develop resiliency, confidence 和adaptive techniques while managing anxiety, stress, fear 和uncertainty common to traumatic experiences.

“Under the right circumstances, even a child exposed to extreme adversity can recover 和go on to thrive,” Rogers says.

但他们不能单独做它。帮助一个年轻人的恢复需要的不仅仅是依靠他们的自然恢复力。这就是你可以做什么来帮助。

提供安全感

他：让孩子放心，他们是安全的。保持一个可预测的常规。从新闻中屏蔽年幼的孩子。帮助青少年管理自己的媒体曝光。让他们尽可能多地谈论他们的经历，就像他们想要的那样。

马西：强调积极的事情发生在世界上，而不是消极的。

恢复可能需要很长时间

他：几个星期或几个月后，许多孩子经历了短期的压力或创伤回到他们在创伤前的方式。如果不发生这种情况，寻求更多的帮助是明智的。个人，家庭或团体治疗可以是非常有效的帮助人们学习，以应付困难。

什么看出来

他：This is more about who’s at greater risk. What to watch out for would be disturbance in mood, sleep, appetite, aggressive behaviors, nightmares, playing out the trauma over 和over, 和developmental regression.

马西： Some children are at risk for severe stress reactions to traumatic events. Factors include a history of child abuse 和neglect, depression 和anxiety 和any family history of these experiences 和symptoms. A lack of social 和family support systems can also prolong the adversity.

Provide Structure 和Caring

马西： Provide children with the comfort of a daily routine to provide them with structure 和security. As a child matures, they can begin to develop their own routines.Build strong support systems, including immediate 和distant family, teachers, mentors, coaches, peers or religious figures.

他：“A child who knows that there is at least one grown-up who genuinely has their best interest at heart, who believes they can succeed 和wants to help them, is more likely to be resilient even after multiple stressful experiences. This caring adult is often a parent, but could also be a grandparent, aunt or uncle, teacher, pastor or coach. Only one such adult makes all the difference in the world.”

树立一个好榜样

马西： Build positive self-esteem through praise, encouraging them to be more independent 和set goals for themselves. Praise for even small effort because it’s a progress toward goal accomplishment.

他：One of the most powerful ways parents can influence their children is by setting an example. Show there is a balance between work 和play, model a healthy lifestyle 和show kids by your example that conflict can be resolved 和that adversity can be overcome.

让你的孩子提供帮助他人的机会

他：无论是教孩子玩游戏，参加食品驱动，筹款活动或志愿服务，有机会照顾别人的孩子都知道，他们所做的事情是不同的。孩子们知道他们的努力工作是成功的，他们的努力很重要，能更好地应对困难的事情。

最后思想

马西： Research shows that the support of the adults the children are closest to 和their living environment often have a stronger influence on how they adjust after abuse than the actual nature of the abuse

他： We can’t always shield kids from terrible experiences. But we can help them to build the capacity to adapt. Children have a natural ability to learn 和grow that, coupled with adult support 和help, can be a lifelong source of resilience.

To read a helpful blog post with information about how to talk to your kids about challenging situations like violence 和disaster, check out this post from our Children’s Hospital Los Angeles experts.

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